Well, let me say something else …. allowing this “man’s” behavior to go on is called enabling. When he has to pay some consequences for his behavior that hurt worse than the gambling losses, THEN he MIGHT be willing to listen but not before. What sort of consequences? Being cut off from his children for lack of support, no sugar momma footin’ the bills, and getting kicked out permanently for lack of support of his wife and children. It DOES NOT MATTER that you earn enough to support this person and that or whoever. It is still his responsibility to support his children, whether you two stay together or not.
Okay, that’s it. I am getting down off my soapbox! Grrrrr